Sharing personal information brings people closer together. Hays D, Samuels A. I feel I'm rambling a little-hard to gather a million thoughts together lol. Perceived bias from professional therapists during couple therapy at the time of the disclosure was experienced as additionally isolating, especially for those for whom informal support family, friends, on-line fora was limited.
Many of us move forward into new relationships — and some of us find happiness with another former straight spouse! At first, you ask him gently, "Honey, is everything okay? You find these good-looking, sensitive, conversational men who want to spend their lives with you.
You are so happy, that you do everything you can to make the mood a real one--quiet candlelight dinner, bottle of wine, Maybe I will look for some other former gay husbands tucked away, romantic music--and tonight's the night! Those peer-to-peer relationships are a powerful boost to healing and moving forward.
However I do support and love those that had the balls to come out before destroying others. I prob just loved him even more.
Another point I'd like to make--as naive as some of you still are who are reading this--and I say naive--not stupid so please don't think I mean anything other than naive--some of your husbands have continued to have gay sex from the early days of your marriage. Some of them will never get caught, and many of them will never confess—EVER.
It doesn't happen that way in real life. Your not bi or even a weird freak.
When he left it was very, very difficult. I have to stay and support my husband through his illness, because I do still care for him. I'm sure he is your best friend, but you are not his mother. Some choose celibacy as an improvement over what they regard as a sinful gay life.
I hope you and your husbands health improve and that in time all of you can remain friends despite what has happened. Post Comment Your name.